Mom and Career!
Being a working mom can be extremely challenging most times, and that’s putting it mildly. All working moms out there knows exactly what I am talking about. The second that baby is born, you are dreading the thought of going back to work and leaving your precious little newborn with someone else to look after. There is no way someone else can nurture her like I can. At the end of the day, you are a career woman so that’s what you do, you go back to work. You convince yourself your baby won’t miss you since she sleeps 90% of the day anyway. If you’re anything like me, you add to your family, and continue to have the same guilty feelings child after child. Don’t worry, I stopped at three.
Even with these guilty feelings, you take pride in your career and are torn between the two. Don’t get me wrong, I could never be a stay at home mom. I’m not creative enough to entertain me and the kids all day, every day. I absolutely give those moms major props. When I was on maternity leave with my second child, I was running all around getting my first born to Gymboree classes and anything else that might stimulate her. I was exhausted by early afternoon and couldn’t wait for my nap. Oh wait, I can’t do that..the baby now needs my attention. Good lord, I don’t know how I did it. Then I decided to add a 3rd baby to the mix. What?!?
As my children grew, my career got more demanding. I took on more and more responsibility and had to travel quite a bit. In fact, you can say, I actually lived in a different city and traveled home for weekends. I would try to break up the week and come tuck the kids in either on a Tuesday or Wednesday evening. I did everything in my power not to miss any important events. Although, I will never forget missing my youngest daughter’s 5th birthday because I was in Denver traveling for work. I wasn’t there to wake her up in the morning and sing her Happy Birthday. I improvised…I had my family call me before they woke her up so I could sing over the phone.
I remember thinking I had to go on this trip and couldn’t tell them I had to pass. If I passed, they wouldn’t think I was dedicated to my job and future opportunities might not present themselves. The fact is, I’m no longer with that company and certainly no one recalls or appreciates the sacrifice I made. The person that does remember is my youngest daughter who is now 10. She has no problem reminding me on occasion.
Now that my children are older (teen/pre-teen) there are other struggles I now deal with. They are very active in sports. Of course, many of the school games are right after school. It’s impossible for me and my husband to make all of them. Keep in mind… we work! How would that look, leaving 2 to 3 times a week at 3PM to hit a middle school volleyball game? Probably wouldn’t go over well but there is nowhere I would rather be than sitting on that bleacher cheering my daughters on to victory.
You make sacrifices in your life, so you better make sure at the end of the day, they are worth it. We are able to afford good schooling for the kids, nice family trips, summer camps, club volleyball, etc. If you are going to make these sacrifices, do it because you love what you do. It’s not easy missing out on moments with your children. If you have a true passion for your career, it makes it a bit easier. Plus, your children will see this passion and will learn so much from you.