Will “Thinking Big” Stand in your Way?
Yes, you read that right! Are you actually afraid of success? Let me expand on that a bit with thoughts I have about this subject. Several times a day, we are delivered messages to Think Positive, have Big Dreams, You Deserve Success, don’t let anything Stand in your Way, and the positive messages keep coming and coming. I completely get it and I am one of those that love sending and receiving those positive messages for motivation and inspiration. When I get these little reminders throughout the day, it get’s my head back in the right spot and it reminds me to keep pushing for my dreams. But then…
I start to think about wanting more and achieving my actual goals and negative thoughts creep in my head. Am I that selfish? Do I expect too much? I think about how fortunate I already am with the things I have. I have three (3) healthy children, I have been married to my best friend for 17 years, I have successful job and make a great income so I start to feel guilty that I actually want more. I start to think the people who have a lot less than I do and more unfortunate and how wrong it is for me to actually wish for what I am wishing.
Am I supposed to be content or do I keep driving for the end goal? I know this sounds like a lot of negative talk that I do with myself but it happens. Do people really believe in me or do they think all my “adventures” are nonsense and just humor me? You can see how these thoughts can sabotage you and can stand in the way of your own success. I have to give myself a pep talk and remind myself to always be grateful for what I have and it’s okay to think BIG.
You have also heard people say that successful people fail many times before they succeed. I have certainly had my fair share of failures that took a toll on my time and wallet. Sure I learned a lot from these experiences but, at the end of the day, they failed! It’s difficult to see the benefit from these experiences since I sacrificed so much but I’m sure there are benefits somewhere. You question whether this next adventure will be the one to actually succeed and this time and energy will finally be worth it.
Although it is critical to stay positive, I thought it was important to discuss some of the negative thoughts that arise and how you have to be your biggest fan at the end of the day. Allow yourself to have these thoughts but work through them. Remind yourself that you do deserve to accomplish your goals and doing so will not jeopardize your family, your health, or your sanity. As long as your not putting yourself in financial ruins and you enjoy your experiences, keep moving forward. Envision your success and show gratitude. Once you can accept that you do deserve it and remove the road blocks, the opportunities will come and nothing can stand in your way. Don’t sabotage yourself! Don’t stand in your own way!
Here is my wish for you:
You are now out of your comfort zone and you are getting closer to accomplishing your dreams! DREAM BIG!