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Why do I Live an Average Life

I remember the moment I asked myself, why do I live an average life?  That is the moment I decided I needed to change everything.  I needed to change my morning routine, how I communicated with people, how often I exercise, how much I drink, and how much I focus on making myself a better person.

Over the past several months, I have completely changed the way I operate my life.  I like to wake up at least an hour before my girls rise for school.  Mind you, I was not doing this six months ago.  Six months ago I was getting only fifteen minutes prior to the girls and that was just to take a shower.  That did not leave me much time to do anything for myself.  Now I use this time to write my blog post for the day or I spend time reading.  I find the mornings I have the most creativity and best concentration so I want to take full advantage of my creative state.

By the time the girls wake up, I have already accomplished a tremendous amount and I feel immense fulfillment.  Many times, I’m left wanting more.   Six months ago, I could have never said this.  I was going through the motions and not doing anything that was getting me closer to my goals.  I was getting ready for the day, dropping the girls off at school, and then driving my 45 minute commute to work.  Frankly, my day really didn’t get started until I walk through the doors at my job.  It was very monotonous and predictable.

I felt average even though I strived for much more.  What I didn’t realize at the time, I was doing it all wrong.  I would often think to myself what I was doing wrong.  If I just knew what I needed to , I would do it.  It wasn’t what I was doing wrong, it was what I wasn’t doing.  I was stuck in the predictable trap and not growing.

Why do I Live an Average Life

I was doing what most somewhat successful people do.  I worked hard, I got involved with different charities, I became a Board Member, I signed up for different networking groups and attended meetings here and there.  I was oblivious and truly thought this was all I had to do to achieve greatness.  I was so frustrated when I wasn’t getting the results I wanted.

Imagine that, just doing the basics did not get me to the results I was craving.  I look at the things I am doing now and it is so much more than what I did six months ago.  I wake up each morning with a with a clear purpose.  I look at time as a precious asset and something I need to maximize.  If I find myself drifting to actions that will not benefit my goals, I snap myself out of it, and get back on track.  I never viewed my time this intently before.  I am more focused on learning and stepping out of my comfort-zone.  I now want to feel uncomfortable because then I know I am doing and growing.

I look back now and understand how average I was, even though I had a burning desire inside of me to obtain greatness.  I can now see the ability to obtain what I have set out to do.  Six months ago I had way too many roadblocks that I put in my own way.  Some of these roadblocks I didn’t even know I had until I started down this path.  I have now removed most roadblocks, even though I discover different roadblocks standing in my way all the time.  I have several ah-ha moments where I realize I what is holding me back.  You learn a tremendous amount about yourself through the process.  You will realize you can actually accomplish more than you even thought possible once you start making better decisions.

September 5, 2017 0 comment
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Handle Change

People Deal With Change Differently

Recently, I found out my company merged with another company. Scary, right? Not for me! This is the second time this happened within the last two years. What does this mean for everyone? CHANGE! In my role, I get a lot of feedback from my co-workers and I have realized people handle change differently. Some people adjust easily, while others really struggle with any kind if disruption.

How you approach, change will determine how successful you will be with the transformation. Every organization must evolve or they will not be effective. Granted you can measure change on different magnitudes but change is significant for success. Are you adaptable? If you are, you will see the positive side of change and will be at a definite advantage over your colleagues. Your personality will shine and people will take notice. Your encouraging outlook will help guide you through the change and make the transition more enjoyable. Having the right attitude is key!

If you are not adaptable, you will certainly struggle. You may be seen as inflexible or not a team player. Change can bring on unwanted anxiety and affect your performance. Your fear of the unknown can be emotionally paralyzing. So what do you do if you are the type of person that has a tough time handling change? First and foremost, accept what is beyond your control. By accepting you are not in control of the outcome, will free you from the fear of the unknown. The only reason to control the situation is that you think you know what outcome is best for you. Is that true? Do you always know what is best for you? Of course not! You do not even know all the possible endings.

If you want to be seen in a positive light, do not focus on the negative. Accept it and take positive action. Said Dr. Stephen R. Covey, “We control our actions, but the consequences that flow from those actions are controlled by principles.” It is okay to analyze the situation but know that the outcome is out of your control. Do not go into this blindly, be educated, but have an open mind for what awaits you at the end. Change can provide you better skills, larger responsibilities, greater insight, and more knowledge. Change can also lead you to new people, healthier lifestyle, and new opportunities.

Do not shut down when you hear the word “Change.” Do not run for the hills and hide under a rock hoping change will not touch you. Grab change by the horns and own it. Know confidently that no matter what happens you will be okay. In fact, you may actually gain something and grow as a person. If you shy away from change, you do not know all the possibilities that lie ahead for you. You are born with the will to survive and the need to thrive. Be convinced that change can only help you achieve your goals and then change will not be that scary. Do not fear change, embrace it!

February 7, 2017 1 comment
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