How you Get Yourself To Cross The Line
As stated by Alan Henry on Lifehacker, “Your comfort zone is a behavioral space where your activities and behaviors fit a routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk.” First, you have to recognize your comfort zone. Know the space where you feel safe and acknowledge the line you typically will not cross. Be cognizant of this state. It is human nature to want to stay within this sphere and feel sheltered.
Most people are concerned if they step out of this sphere, negative things will happen and they could become emotionally scarred. People do not want to be embarrassed, hurt, look silly or shamed and would rather stick to their safe place, “comfort-zone.”
This so-called safe place will lead to stagnation. You are guarding yourself from greatness. How far could you actually go in life and how much could you accomplish if you were not afraid. Are you actually afraid of making a fool of yourself? I would be more afraid of not accomplishing the goals I set out for myself. You cannot let the negative thoughts control your future – they will think I am weird, creepy, obnoxious, annoying, etc. Do not allow your fear of what people will think of you; stop you from your full potential.
So what if you fail? The question you should really ask yourself is, “What if I don’t try?” If you do not try, you will never know what you could have accomplished. Take me, for example. I started writing articles about eight (8) months ago. I was embarrassed and uncomfortable to tell anyone. I was worried what people would say, if they would think I was silly, and if I would be humiliated. I did not know how my friends, family, and co-workers would judge me so I did not mention it to anyone. I just wrote because I enjoyed it. One day, I got the nerve to post one of my articles on LinkedIn thinking no one would notice. A friend of my happened to see the article and posted it on Facebook for all to see. I was anxious and did not know what to expect. To my dismay, people were extremely supportive.
I even received positive feedback from my teenage daughter’s best friend, Brianna, which inspired me to write this article. I watch these beautiful, hardworking girls every weekend play competitive volleyball. Sometimes I wonder if they could step out of their comfort-zone what could they accomplish on the courts. Do they get caught up with what their teammates think, what the parents think, what their coaches think that they would prefer to play it “safe” so they are not ridiculed. These girls have so much potential but outside influences hold them back. I would love to give these girls the confidence to take risks and feel discomfort so they know, at this young age; it is not as scary as they think. If they could take risks as teenagers, it will be much easier to do as adults.
You can learn many great lessons when you step outside your comfort-zone. Think about the excitement you will feel and the confidence you will gain. Make a conscious effort to break from your routine. Start small by taking a new route to work, pick up a new hobby, talk to someone you have never talked to before. Explore and see what you discover. You will be amazed how productive you will come and how much fuller your life will be. Analyze weekly and see what else you can uncover about yourself.