The Kids are all grown up, now what!
Whether you are a stay at home mom or you work full time with kids, at some point in your life you are going to face the harsh reality that your kids are grown. Ouch! It’s true; they grow up and no longer need all of your time and attention. What do you do now?
When I had my first daughter 16 years ago, I was in my late 20s and not even close to be thinking of what will happen when my kids are all grown up. I guess the reality of starting a family and what that process looked like did not occur to a twenty something year old. Actually, looking back, I had no idea how much time, energy, heartache, and happiness raising families would take. In the same manner, I did not realize how much they would cost, either.
With my naïve self, I was all in: working tons of hours on my career, new wife, and being a full-time mommy. Then two more daughters came over the next five years and I was so strapped for time, I could not find any “ME” time. I worked a tremendous amount of hours and came home to three beautiful and highly energized daughters. You can say I definitely had two jobs, which included my career and raising my children. Thankfully, I have a supportive husband who is very much part of the child rearing. I really do not know how single parents do it by themselves and that is a very honest statement.
I can only imagine how the stay at home parent views this stage in life. It must also be very nerve wracking to think about what you will do next. At the same time, since you have spent so much time with your children, you might be totally ready for this moment in time. You will have a lot of time on your hands and you want to be as productive as possible. Are you considering a new hobby, going back to work, volunteering for a non-profit? Any and all these options are wonderful avenues to explore.
If you are considering going back to work, you may be reluctant since you have been out of the workforce for some time. You may wonder how things have changed or how you will fit in. Here is my advice: you took charge of your family for Eighteen plus years (not an easy task), now it’s time you take charge in the workplace. Employers need great people and you will fill a much-needed hole that has been waiting for you. Jump in with both feet. You got this!